Introduction : love alone is not enough
The simple secret to a better marriage
To communicate, decipher the code
Why she won't respect; why he won't love
What men fear most can keep the crazy cycle spinning
She fears being a doormat; He's tired of "just not getting it"
She worries about being a hypocrite; He complains, "I get no respect!"
She thinks she can't forgive him; He says, "Nobody can love that woman!"
C-o-u-p-l-e : how to spell love to your wife
Closeness ... she wants you to be close
Openness ... she wants you to open up to her
Understanding ... don't try to "fix her", just listen
Peacemaking ... she wants you to say, "I'm sorry"
Loyalty ... she needs to know you're committed
Esteem ... she wants you to honor and cherish her
C-h-a-i-r-s : how to spell respect to your husband
Conquest ... appreciate his desire to work and achieve
Hierarchy ... appreciate his desire to protect and provide
Authority ... appreciate his desire to serve and to lead
Insight ... appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel
Relationship ... appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship
Sexuality ... appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy
The energizing cycle will work if you do
Part III: The rewarded cycle
The real reason to love and respect
The truth can make you free, indeed
Conclusion: pink and blue can make God's purple.
